
When the Spouse of 20 Years Leaves
After 20 years of marriage, one spouse walks out for someone else. A reflection on infidelity, the new romance's fading thrill, and why exciting marriages
By Thoughtful India Staff||1 min read
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After 20 years of marriage, one spouse walks out for someone else. A reflection on infidelity, the new romance's fading thrill, and why exciting marriages
By Thoughtful India Staff||1 min read

In November 2014, Jashodaben filed an RTI with Mehsana police asking what security and facilities she was entitled to as the Prime Minister’s wife.
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Therapist Dr. Kelly Flanagan's 2014 essay: marital communication is just reacting — the real troublemakers are nine overlooked patterns: ego, shame, loneliness.
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Most marriages don't fail in a single dramatic moment. They fail slowly — taken for granted, compared, cheated, or fought over money. What actually breaks them.
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When long marriages end over 'incompatibility,' is it really incompatibility — or a midlife crisis? A reflection on marriage, divorce, and the work in between.
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From an Indian Army study on leave and affairs to Bangalore's IT crowd: an op-ed asking whether monogamy is believed but not practiced.
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New Zealand's parliament voted 77-44 to legalize same-sex marriage — the 13th country in the world and the first in Asia-Pacific.
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Why do women still give up their names at marriage while men never do? On identity, history, and the quiet pressure behind the tradition.
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Couples are wedding across continents over video chat. A 2013 NYT report traced the rise of proxy marriages — and the fraud and trafficking concerns.
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Researcher Terri Orbuch found that when husbands felt close to their wives' parents, couples reported happier marriages. The in-law effect is real.
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Saif Ali Khan and Kareena Kapoor married in a quiet registered ceremony at his Bandra home on October 16, 2012, ending five years of speculation.
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Two women, similar backgrounds, the same day care job — one married, one raising children alone. How family structure has become one of America's deepest
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Marrying into Indian family life means marrying the family, the festivals, the food debates — and learning that 'compromise' has a much larger cast than two.
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India's Supreme Court ruled that sex obtained through a false promise of marriage constitutes rape under the IPC — a major statement on consent in Indian law.
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The 2012 speculation that Obama might swap Biden for Hillary Clinton as his running mate — the electoral logic, the arguments against, and why it never
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Vidya Balan's 2012 relationship with studio executive Siddharth Roy Kapur quietly challenged a stubborn assumption: that the man must be the more prominent
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Studies once found cohabitation predicted divorce — the 'cohabitation effect'. The real mechanisms: sliding vs deciding, selection, and age.
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A prenup with a weight-gain penalty clause made headlines in 2012. Why body-policing contracts are legally shaky — and what they do to a marriage.
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A gene variant called 5-HTTLPR was once said to predict divorce. It doesn't. Here's what the actual research found about DNA and marital satisfaction.
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A 2011 University of Tennessee study found marriages happier when the wife's BMI was lower than the husband's. But the headline was better than the truth.
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A 2011 Wall Street Journal essay on the 'divorce generation' asked a hard question: when parents pour everything into the kids, who tends the marriage?
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Before settling down, most women collect a small education in men: the best friend, the bad boy, the ex, the fling, and finally the keeper.
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A 2011 New York Times essay on the Weiner scandal argued marriages fail from dishonesty, not desire. Thoughtful India revisits the provocative case for honesty.
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A lasting marriage isn't always a happy one. Research on self-expansion suggests the happiest couples are the ones still learning together.
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Marital drift — the slow divergence of two people sharing a house — is the least dramatic and most common reason long marriages end. Why it happens.
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With Facebook nearing 500 million users, one feed now reaches your boss, your clients, and your grandmother. What not to post to all of them at once.
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The fleeing husband who leaves a long marriage triggers more than grief — a painful revision of the whole story the abandoned partner told herself.
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